It is more and more common for women to be expected to participate in body-punishing acts in their own sex lives, thanks to the normalization of sadomasochistic pornography.
BDSM
Either men’s sadism is innate, or it’s learned, and if it’s learned, we can do something about it.
That men have learned to put their pleasure first has created a world where sadists like Peter Madsen and Brendt Christensen not only fantasize about hurting women, but make those fantasies a reality.
This morning, Jian Ghomeshi was found not guilty on all charges — four counts of sexual assault and one count of overcoming resistance by choking. This verdict, unfortunately, is not particularly surprising.…
Note: This post as well as the links and resources contained in this post may contain graphic descriptions of violence against women. “What about aftercare?” The mere fact of aftercare should clue…
Note: This post as well as the links and resources contained in this post may contain graphic descriptions of violence against women. “BDSM is not really abuse.” BDSM proponents promote the illusion…
Note: This post as well as the links and resources contained in this post may contain graphic descriptions of violence against women. Inspired by Meghan’s post on burlesque and the work of…
Media mainstreaming of heterosexual sadomasochism as “what women want” reached an astounding apex with Fifty Shades of Grey. Its literary precursor Story of O, also written by a woman, had book and…
The last time two hours felt this long, I was in labour. Was I having a triple root canal sans anesthetic? Was I having a limb amputated? No. I was sitting through…
Jian Ghomeshi surrendered to the police this morning and was later released on bail following a court appearance in Toronto. He is charged with four counts of sexual assault and one count of…
The CBC announced yesterday that they would be ending their relationship with Jian Ghomeshi, host of cultural affairs radio show Q, and probably the most famous radio host the CBC has ever…
Hidden in a passage of Douglas Adams’ 1980 sci-fi comedy novel The Restaurant at the End of the Universe is one of the most interesting cultural problems of our time. While eating…
Consent is the magical fairy dust which turns rape into sex; trafficking into free speech; and sexualized abuse, torture, and subjugation into sexual liberation — or so many people claim. Many “sex-positive…
Emily Witt’s recent essay, in which she describes traveling to San Fransisco, where she watches a BDSM porn shoot for a Kink.com series called Public Disgrace, which depicts “women bound, stripped, and punished…