Tag: sadomasochism

BDSM FAQ (Frequently Asserted Quibbles), Part 2

Note: This post as well as the links and resources contained in this post may contain graphic descriptions of violence against women. “BDSM is not really abuse.” BDSM proponents promote the illusion…

BDSM FAQ (Frequently Asserted Quibbles): Part 1

Note: This post as well as the links and resources contained in this post may contain graphic descriptions of violence against women. Inspired by Meghan’s post on burlesque and the work of…

Fifty Shades of Gay: Coming soon?

Media mainstreaming of heterosexual sadomasochism as “what women want” reached an astounding apex with Fifty Shades of Grey. Its literary precursor Story of O, also written by a woman, had book and…

The tyranny of consent

Emily Witt’s recent essay, in which she describes traveling to San Fransisco, where she watches a BDSM porn shoot for a Kink.com series called Public Disgrace, which depicts “women bound, stripped, and punished…

It’s not about you: Beyond ‘kink-shaming’

Let’s just start by saying this: I really don’t care about ‘kink’ or about ‘kinky people’. It just doesn’t interest me. I don’t give a shit about your leather fetish. Really. But…