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Horny men, desperate women, and hookup culture: How evolutionary psychology and Margaret Wente get most things wrong

Margaret Wente is doing her part to contribute to the desperately needed cannon of writing that encourages women to live in fear of growing old, man-free. These kinds of pieces have been coming out on a regular basis for some time now. Notably, Susan Faludi addressed ye old ‘man shortage’ scare in her 1991 book, Backlash. Let’s keep that ball rolling, though, eh? “The men are disappearing! Find one! FIND ONNNNE!” is a patriarchal favorite because it ensures women remain insecure and in competition with one another and allows men to grow old minus the sad, lonely, spinster trope attached to their bachelorhood. In her recent piece at The Globe and Mail, ‘Why won’t guys grow up? Sexual economics“, Wente laments the apparently disappeared and “old-fashioned custom known as...
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Podcast: Can marriage ever be feminist? An interview with Nicola Barker

Though many of the more oppressive aspects of marriage have been removed, the institution itself continues to represent and reinforce a patriarchal and heteronormative ideology in many ways. Marriage seems barely relevant in this day and age and yet we continue to marry. In fact, one of the key struggles towards gender equality appears to be the fight for same-sex marriage. But can marriage ever be progressive? Is this an institution worth fighting for? Your host, Meghan Murphy, speaks with Nicola Barker, the author of the book: Not the Marrying Kind: A Feminist Critique of Same-Sex Marriage. Listen here:   Podcast: Play in new window | Download...
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Occupy Valentine's Day

Most of my love stories end with me feeling like I put a whole lot of energy into trying to build something out of nothing. Lust turns to love so easily and before you know it you’re invested in a relationship that seems more important than you. You end up trying to save a relationship for the sake of the relationship rather than trying to save yourself. Before you all start accusing me of being bitter or hard or cold or damaged or whatever else women with personalities and life experience are, I’m not anti-romance and I’m not anti-love. I get sucked into all that lovey crap like the best of us. That said, I like to keep a healthy level of cynicism (hey, let’s just go right ahead...
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Marriage, monogamy and compulsory sex(uality).

I tend not to involve myself in debates around marriage, commitment and monogamy. Moral arguments don’t do it for me and I have little to no interest in arguing for monogamy (if you are into it, don’t care, if not, also don’t care). Since marriage is, as far as I’m concerned, a useless remnant of the days when women were chattle, which people continue to cling tightly to because they desire to project meaning onto their intimate relationships which could be just as meaningful without marriage if we had not decided, as a culture, that marriage made a relationship more valid and more important than any other relationship, I’m not all that interested in conversations about what we should or should not do within marriage. BUT I am interested...
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'My Big Feminist Life' or 'How Love Didn't Change my Politics'

I never wanted to get married. And I am still that woman. It’s not because I thought I would never meet the right man and it’s not because I was witness to a divorce that shattered my faith ye old sacred institution, that which once placed women in the honourable position of chattle. Nor was it because I feared no one would ask me or, even, that I would lose my freedom and independence. It’s not because I am afraid of commitment or because I  ‘just want to sleep around’ (the pleasant response I got from most friends and acquaintances during my early 20s). It wasn’t, believe it or not, because I hated men. I didn’t decide that I wouldn’t marry, even, because I thought that my feminism card...
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