Valentine’s Day is tomorrow. I’ve got to write something, I tell myself. But what can I say? Inspirational messages aren’t really my bag, but neither is hopelessness. In truth, I’m a romantic. A skeptical romantic, but a romantic nonetheless. Romance is awkward for feminists. It’s defined by bullshit like proposals and lingerie and heterosexuality and [...]
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Horny men, desperate women, and hookup culture: How evolutionary psychology and Margaret Wente get most things wrong
November 13, 2012
Margaret Wente is doing her part to contribute to the desperately needed cannon of writing that encourages women to live in fear of growing old, man-free. These kinds of pieces have been coming out on a regular basis for some time now. Notably, Susan Faludi addressed ye old ‘man shortage’ scare in her 1991 book, [...]
I am a feminist and I am also a human being
May 22, 2012
I’m not sure if it came from Naomi Wolf’s critique of ‘victim feminism’ or if it’s simply another painful part of the backlash, designed as an attempt to further weaken and silence women’s voices and experiences, but somewhere in there we’ve managed to develop an understanding that to be feminist means you must be flawless. [...]
Link love: Occupying Valentine’s Day across the interwebz
February 14, 2012
Last month, Samhita Mukhopadhyay wrote, in a blog post: …in an effort to push the bounds of that exclusivity that so many of us feel on Valentine’s day, I wanted to think about the ways we can rethink love and romance to resemble who we are, as singles, couples and community. Celebrating love is a [...]




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